Temideni Faedat
Damian’s twin brother, Desmond, has completed his university education and served in the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), a common path for many young Nigerians. But for Damian, the journey has been different. His developmental delays became evident early on, and his mother, Franca, was the first to notice that something was amiss. As Damian's disabilities became more apparent, it marked the beginning of a battle against not just his condition, but the stigma and rejection that followed.
The difficulties of raising a child with complex disabilities were compounded by societal judgment and a lack of support from those closest to her. Damian's father, overwhelmed by the situation, reacted with rejection and false accusations, leaving Franca to shoulder the responsibility alone. The emotional toll of isolation and constant stigmatization eventually led to a period of clinical depression, during which Franca spent nearly a year in a psychiatric hospital.
Despite these overwhelming odds, Franca emerged stronger and more determined than ever to advocate for Damian and others like him. Her journey with Damian inspired her to create a platform to support mothers in rural communities who, like her, face the painful realities of raising children with disabilities in a society that offers little understanding or empathy. She taught him how to cook and he loves cooking – something other people with his condition would most likely not do.
Damian's life today, though still challenging, is supported by his mother’s advocacy efforts through a local centre that provides essential services for people with disabilities. The centre offers skills training, meals, and counselling for individuals like Damian and their families. It also provides advocacy and sensitization to community stakeholders, highlighting the importance of acceptance and inclusion for people living with disabilities.
But the road ahead remains long. The lack of funding continues to limit opportunities for individuals like Damian, who, despite their training, often lack the financial means to pursue further education or sustain a livelihood.
Mrs. Franca believes that with the right support, the impact on Damian and others in the community would be transformative. It’s not just about providing resources but creating an environment where people with disabilities can thrive—where they are not defined by their conditions but empowered by their abilities.
Damian’s story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. Though his challenges are profound, his presence in the world is a reminder of the value of every life. With his mother by his side, advocating for a better, more inclusive society, Damian’s journey continues to inspire, not only for the progress he makes but for the hope he brings to families facing similar struggles. Together, they are breaking the chains of stigma, one step at a time, showing that no life is too different to be valued.