Without sugarcoating the issue, Uriel tackled the societal and emotional toll this trend has taken, particularly on women over 35. “You see some women in Nigeria now, from 35 to 40 and even older, and they’re still single. I’m talking about beautiful, intelligent women,” she said. “Why? It’s because it’s hard to find a decent man in Nigeria these days.”
She attributed the problem not just to a shortage of eligible men, but to a deeper cultural conditioning that encourages emotional indecision and dissatisfaction. “It all boils down to this culture we have — this idea that there’s always something better out there,” she explained. “But the truth is, there’s nothing better.”
“I Adore Nigerian Men, But I Won’t Stay Silent”
Interestingly, Uriel was quick to temper her criticism with praise, emphasizing her affection for Nigerian men. “I adore Nigerian men — honestly, I do. There’s no one like them anywhere in the world,” she acknowledged, before adding, “But when I hear a man say he can’t be sexually committed to one woman, I can’t keep quiet.”
For Uriel, the issue goes far beyond physical loyalty. It’s rooted in the decisions men make when choosing a partner — decisions she argues are often shallow and driven by surface-level appeal. “A lot of men in Nigeria don’t date for substance,” she said. “They date for what they see — hips, waist, face — all the packaging. Then later, they’re either bored or tempted by the next ‘better package’ because they didn’t choose what really matters: the mind, the values, the depth.”
A Challenge to Date Differently
Uriel offered a direct challenge to men who struggle with long-term commitment: try a new approach. “If I could sit with any of these men today, I’d tell them straight: try a different kind of woman. Try dating for depth, not just physique. You might just find the commitment you claim you can’t handle.”
Her statement echoes the silent frustrations of many women in Nigeria and across the diaspora who feel that meaningful relationships are being undermined by unrealistic expectations and a culture of perpetual comparison. Uriel’s appeal is not just a critique — it’s a call for intentionality and emotional maturity in romantic relationships.
“Stop Blaming Nature, Start Checking Your Choices”
She concluded her message with a powerful reminder that accountability starts with self-awareness. “Sometimes we need to stop blaming our nature and start checking our choices,” she said.
Uriel’s perspective has resonated widely, especially among Nigerian women who feel unseen or misunderstood in today’s dating landscape. Her viral remarks have since sparked both agreement and controversy on social media — a sign that her comments struck a nerve in a conversation that’s long overdue.
With courage and candour, Uriel Oputa has once again used her platform to amplify voices that are often unheard — and to push for a shift toward deeper, more conscious connections.