Every man at some point in his life claims to not understand women. Thankfully you don't have to understand a woman in order to understand dating. As long as you are civil, courteous and polite, nothing should go wrong on the date. Of course, this is just theory...
If you are one of those men who constantly find themselves on a "bad date", then you are probably doing something wrong.
You know you are on a bad date when you are dealing with an uncommunicative woman, a woman that won't stop talking about her ex, a crying woman, a yelling woman or a woman who slaps you on the face.
If the woman is flirting with other men, brings her friends along or suddenly abandons you in a movie or restaurant, then this also qualifies as a bad date.
Even though it is your date that is doing the acting up, you need to do some preparatory work to figure out why you never see these antics coming The following suggestions might help you avoid similar situations in the future.
First of all, realize that sanity or morals do not necessarily accompany good looks. Are you dating this person out of pure lust? If so, you might be blind to her many flaws.
Put some heart into your search for a soul mate. A date isn't just going to show up at the door and ring the bell. Get up off the couch and put yourself on a regimen of good grooming. Contrary to popular belief most women are not looking for a loveable yet eccentric curmudgeon who wears sweatpants all day. Get your physique in shape, buy new clothes and get your hair styled. This does wonders for your self-confidence and self-esteem.
Meditate on what it is you really want from a partner. If it is just a series of one-night stands, then fine, you are more likely to get that after you have spruced yourself up. Promise yourself to be honest with the women you are dating so that you don't end up with an insulted or obsessed woman who feels abandoned or tricked by your casual ways.
If you really want to win the dating game, you first need to develop an inner strategy that determines the prize. Decide who you are looking for and look for that person in a place where they are most likely to hang out. For instance it would be a mistake to try and find a mother for your two children at a rave.
If you are one of those men who constantly find themselves on a "bad date", then you are probably doing something wrong.
You know you are on a bad date when you are dealing with an uncommunicative woman, a woman that won't stop talking about her ex, a crying woman, a yelling woman or a woman who slaps you on the face.
If the woman is flirting with other men, brings her friends along or suddenly abandons you in a movie or restaurant, then this also qualifies as a bad date.
Even though it is your date that is doing the acting up, you need to do some preparatory work to figure out why you never see these antics coming The following suggestions might help you avoid similar situations in the future.
First of all, realize that sanity or morals do not necessarily accompany good looks. Are you dating this person out of pure lust? If so, you might be blind to her many flaws.
Put some heart into your search for a soul mate. A date isn't just going to show up at the door and ring the bell. Get up off the couch and put yourself on a regimen of good grooming. Contrary to popular belief most women are not looking for a loveable yet eccentric curmudgeon who wears sweatpants all day. Get your physique in shape, buy new clothes and get your hair styled. This does wonders for your self-confidence and self-esteem.
Meditate on what it is you really want from a partner. If it is just a series of one-night stands, then fine, you are more likely to get that after you have spruced yourself up. Promise yourself to be honest with the women you are dating so that you don't end up with an insulted or obsessed woman who feels abandoned or tricked by your casual ways.
If you really want to win the dating game, you first need to develop an inner strategy that determines the prize. Decide who you are looking for and look for that person in a place where they are most likely to hang out. For instance it would be a mistake to try and find a mother for your two children at a rave.
If you are looking to eventually be married, try to set a timeline by which you would like to accomplish that goal. This is not something that fate might just take care of. Treat this as you would any career goal. If you want to get married in two years, then swear to yourself you will find a partner within that time frame.
Try to choose women who are emotionally available. If a woman is very good-looking and has eighty other men after her she may not be emotionally available.
Also beware of the woman who talks constantly about her ex. In all likelihood, she will project some of her resentment or reminiscences about him onto you. People who confess to addictions, poverty, a history of mental illness or domestic violence may also not qualify as a dream date.
Make a strategy for getting out there and circulating in the determining where you are most likely to meet women. Join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners.
Join a quality Internet dating agency for free and post a profile/ if possible. Take your time and check your mail occasionally. Even if you never date online at least it will boost your confidence and spirits and allow you to practice flirting again.
Once you have asked a woman out on a date, there are five basic guidelines to follow in order to make sure it is a success.
1. Make sure you arrive on time. If you are tardy the woman might resent you for causing her the anxiety of not knowing whether or not you are going to show up on time. Also, don't show up too early, as women don't like to be seen "getting ready."
2. Bring flowers. I know it is a cliche but you can't go wrong. Tulips, sunflowers, lilies and freesia are good for first dates. Bring roses if you have been seeing each other a while.
3. Be a gentleman. Make sure you open doors for her, pull out her chair and wait for her to be seated before sitting down. Mind your table manners and keep a considerate eye on her needs at all times.
4. Don't talk business. Most women find a man who boasts or brags about his work or who goes on too much about his ideals and aims to be boring.
5. Keep your sense of humor. Always find ways to make her smile. However, dirty or risqué jokes are not appropriate.
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