Teenagers, like adults, may experience stress everyday and can benefit from learning stress management skills. Most teens experience more stress when they perceive a situation as dangerous, difficult, or painful and they do not have the resources to cope. Some sources of stress for teens might include:
school demands and frustrations
negative thoughts and feelings about themselves
changes in their bodies
problems with friends
unsafe living environment/neighborhood
separation or divorce of parents
chronic illness or severe problems in the family
death of a loved one
moving or changing schools
taking on too many activities or having too high expectations
family financial problems.
Some teens become overloaded with stress. When it happens, inadequately managed stress can lead to anxiety, withdrawal, aggression, physical illness, or poor coping skills such as illicit drug use.
When we perceive a situation as difficult or painful, changes occur in our minds and bodies to prepare us to respond to danger. This "fight, flight, or freeze" response includes faster heart and breathing rate, increased blood to muscles of arms and legs, cold or clammy hands and feet, upset stomach and/or a sense of dread.
The same mechanism that turns on the stress response can turn it off. As soon as we decide that a situation is no longer dangerous, changes can occur in our minds and bodies to help us relax and calm down. This "relaxation response" includes decreased heart and breathing rate and a sense of well being. Teens that develop a "relaxation response" and other stress management skills feel less helpless and have more choices when responding to stress.
Helping Teenagers with Stress
Parents can help their teen in these ways:
Monitor if stress is affecting their teen's health, behavior, thoughts, or feelings closely. Listen to teens and watch for overloading.
Learn and model stress management skills.
Support involvement in sports and other prosocial activities.
Teens can decrease stress with the following behaviors and techniques:
Exercise and eat regularly.
Avoid excess caffeine intake which can increase feelings of anxiety and agitation.
Avoid illegal drugs and tobacco.
Learn relaxation exercises. For example, learn abdominal breathing and muscle relaxation techniques.
Develop assertiveness training skills. For example, state feelings in polite and firm and not overly aggressive or passive ways. "I feel angry when you yell at me. Please stop yelling."
Rehearse and practice situations which cause stress. One example is taking a speech class if talking in front of a class makes you anxious.
Learn practical coping skills. For example, break a large task into smaller, more attainable tasks.
Decrease negative self talk: challenge negative thoughts about yourself with alternative neutral or positive thoughts. "My life will never be better" can be transformed into "I may feel hopeless now, but my life will probably get better if I work at it and get some help."
Learn to feel good about doing a competent or "good enough" job rather than demanding perfection from yourself and others.
Take a break from stressful situations. Activities like listening to music, talking to a friend, drawing, writing, or spending time with a pet can reduce stress.
Build a network of friends who help you cope in a positive way.
By using these and other techniques, teenagers can begin to manage stress. If a teen talks about or shows signs of being overly stressed, a consultation with a child and adolescent psychiatrist or qualified mental health professional may be helpful.
Coping With Stress
Not enough and life is dull and boring. Too much and you feel like you're going to jump off the deep end.
I asked a group of teenagers what they do when they're too stressed out for comfort. Here are some of their suggestions:
Exercise. Nothing beats a good workout to let off steam. Michelle likes to run. "It's free, I can do it anywhere, and when I'm done I always feel better."
Basketball, aerobics, biking, swimming and walking are also popular. According to Jack, nothing beats karate. "I take all my frustration out on the punching bag. I punch it, kick it, and yell. It gets the anger out."
Music. Karlee's been playing piano for years. After a particularly rough day, she pounds the keyboard. "I lose myself in the music," she says.
A lot of kids said that listening to music was a fabulous release. While loud music tends to make parents tense, it seems to have opposite effect on their "offspring" (pun intended.)
Massage. A group of girls gave me an emphatic yes on this one. "We take turns," explained Janine, "rubbing each other's shoulders and necks. When your muscles are really tight you know you're stressed."
Another way to reduce stress is to examine what's causing it and attempt to eliminate the source. Here are a few suggestions for finding the root of the problem:
Over-scheduling. Is it possible you're doing too much? Make a list of all your activities, then rate each one in terms of importance.
Consider your motives. Are you working weekends because you really need the money, or to afford designer sneakers?
Are you taking an honors class because you enjoy the challenge, or because it'll look good on your college applications? Consider doing less and enjoying it more.
"Should" s. Do you find yourself saying yes when you want to say no, because you think you should? If pleasing others is your sole motive, ask yourself: What do I really want?
De-cluttering relationships. Do you have friends you don't particularly like? Do you hang around with them out of habit?
Just as you clean your drawers out after each growth spurt, and try on new clothes, try on some new friends. If the old ones don't fit, who needs them?
Finally, here are a few tips that work for me:
Breathe. When I'm tense, I forget to breathe. A few deep breaths help to relax.
Meditate. You don't have to climb the Himalayas to meditate. Simply close your eyes, breath deeply and concentrate on a simple, positive thought. The experts recommend 20 minutes a day, but even five minutes a week is helpful.
Talk. A trouble shared is a trouble halved. After griping to a friend I always feel better. When I hear her troubles I'm glad that at least I don't have that problem!
After my grandmother died I felt as if no one understood. Talking to friends just made me feel worse. A therapist who specialized in bereavement helped me express my sorrow and accept the grieving process. If a problem doesn't go away, consider seeing a professional.
Laugh. Nothing beats a funny movie, comedy tape or the latest joke.
Cry. Tears have a way of washing away tension. Holding them back, on the other hand, causes more stress. Let it all out.
Mini-Vacation. While I'd like to fly to Hawaii for two weeks on the beach, I make do with a bubble bath or a trip to the ice-cream parlor at the mall. When I feel like I'm too busy to take a break, that's usually exactly when I need one.
Teenagers' Life
In our life it is important that we have friends, with who we can have fun. School is very important for us, but many teenagers don't check this. Because they think there are other important things. Many of them have boy/girl friends for whom they live. Then there are the boys and girls who think they are cool and very funny when they sit in front of the computer every day, but really they miss the real life and the fun which their friends have.
Life is at its end for many teenager when they lose their boy/girl friend. Many teenagers have trouble with their parents, they think that the parents want to ruin their life. A lot of them test drugs, alcohol etc at 15 or 14 years and think they were cool, but they don't know that drug ruin their lives. Life is very nice when you think of yourself and do what you want and like it, and when you're not going to break only because other people say bad things about you.........
Many teenager smoke and drink alcohol, because they think their life is not good, they have problems at home and with their friends. Some teenager want to die, they take drugs and don't go to school. It gives teenager who don't smoke and drink alcohol and they feel good. When their not good at school they feel bad and try to smoke and drink. Some have bad problems , that they kill their teacher, some kill themselves because of their overweight or underweight, they don't like their bodies. The classmate try to finish the other. We think everybody can do what they think to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If we don't smoke and we have no problems at home and at school. We have a happy life
For a teenager-life is very important, their friends and what they do in their freetime. Teenagers must go often to party's and having fun. Sport is important thing too for example baseball, football or tennis. The hobbies from teenagers are different some go often swimming or riding and other teenagers go often to the cinema and in discos. For a teenager is important after school don't work all the time. The teenagers must choose their own way of life. A lot of teenagers go often in the World-Wide-Web. For many teenager is important too, to go in holiday. Here can found a new friends. A teenager must have their own room for live and to grown up. Some teenagers find school very terrible and don't want to go there.
A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the "why" for his existence, and will be able to bear almost any "how."
Why is life for a teenager worth living !?!
I think it's worth living, because you can have so much fun. Some teenagers goes to concerts or make holidays. In normal every life teenager meet friends, make or hear music. But many teenagers don't think so and they believe that they have many insoluable problems. I think there is always a way to a solution. The biggest problem is that most of them don't speak about their problems. If they speak about their problems we could help them. I think most of the problems come by school and home, because they have e.g. terrible grades or some schoolmates are mobbing them, or the parent are too harsh on them, no chance for any suggestion, no free movement. That makes life very difficult them. They worry about the future, but yet they want to have a lot of fun, forgotten that without good education and good character you, the future you’re worry about will be meaningless and you miss the great fun wish you think you’re missing while away from school.
Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future, make a change.
What things make life worth living?
The friends are very important but, carefully choose and create a family of friends whom you can share your hopes, dreams, sorrows, and happiness with! Is one of help to find a solution to problem. The music make the life very worth living. It helps to get over when you do homework or you're alone with your friend or you are feel sick for example. When you go to holiday you see very beautiful things about the life: the huge green mountains, the beautiful beaches from the lakes and any other things. It helps too when you believe to God, to your family and to yourself.
Responsibility does not only lie with the leaders of our countries or with those who have been appointed or elected to do a particular job. It lies with each of us individually. Peace, for example, starts within each one of us. When we have inner peace, we can be at peace with those around us.
What makes life good?!
Life is the best present that we can get! All of our life is worth living! Things like music, love and work gave the special kick. We must have family, free time for hobbys and 'good friends. When we don’t have sometimes problems or any anger we woudn't live wider. But in this time we can imaging the God sites of live. I don’t understand that people will make suicide kill. The basic thing is that everyone wants happiness, no one wants suffering. And happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in a hostile atmosphere, you feel happy. All people have the right of life! : Stars do not struggle to shine; rivers do not struggle to flow, and you will never struggle to excel in life, because you deserve the best. Hold on to your dream and it shall be well with you.
school demands and frustrations
negative thoughts and feelings about themselves
changes in their bodies
problems with friends
unsafe living environment/neighborhood
separation or divorce of parents
chronic illness or severe problems in the family
death of a loved one
moving or changing schools
taking on too many activities or having too high expectations
family financial problems.
Some teens become overloaded with stress. When it happens, inadequately managed stress can lead to anxiety, withdrawal, aggression, physical illness, or poor coping skills such as illicit drug use.
When we perceive a situation as difficult or painful, changes occur in our minds and bodies to prepare us to respond to danger. This "fight, flight, or freeze" response includes faster heart and breathing rate, increased blood to muscles of arms and legs, cold or clammy hands and feet, upset stomach and/or a sense of dread.
The same mechanism that turns on the stress response can turn it off. As soon as we decide that a situation is no longer dangerous, changes can occur in our minds and bodies to help us relax and calm down. This "relaxation response" includes decreased heart and breathing rate and a sense of well being. Teens that develop a "relaxation response" and other stress management skills feel less helpless and have more choices when responding to stress.
Helping Teenagers with Stress
Parents can help their teen in these ways:
Monitor if stress is affecting their teen's health, behavior, thoughts, or feelings closely. Listen to teens and watch for overloading.
Learn and model stress management skills.
Support involvement in sports and other prosocial activities.
Teens can decrease stress with the following behaviors and techniques:
Exercise and eat regularly.
Avoid excess caffeine intake which can increase feelings of anxiety and agitation.
Avoid illegal drugs and tobacco.
Learn relaxation exercises. For example, learn abdominal breathing and muscle relaxation techniques.
Develop assertiveness training skills. For example, state feelings in polite and firm and not overly aggressive or passive ways. "I feel angry when you yell at me. Please stop yelling."
Rehearse and practice situations which cause stress. One example is taking a speech class if talking in front of a class makes you anxious.
Learn practical coping skills. For example, break a large task into smaller, more attainable tasks.
Decrease negative self talk: challenge negative thoughts about yourself with alternative neutral or positive thoughts. "My life will never be better" can be transformed into "I may feel hopeless now, but my life will probably get better if I work at it and get some help."
Learn to feel good about doing a competent or "good enough" job rather than demanding perfection from yourself and others.
Take a break from stressful situations. Activities like listening to music, talking to a friend, drawing, writing, or spending time with a pet can reduce stress.
Build a network of friends who help you cope in a positive way.
By using these and other techniques, teenagers can begin to manage stress. If a teen talks about or shows signs of being overly stressed, a consultation with a child and adolescent psychiatrist or qualified mental health professional may be helpful.
Coping With Stress
Not enough and life is dull and boring. Too much and you feel like you're going to jump off the deep end.
I asked a group of teenagers what they do when they're too stressed out for comfort. Here are some of their suggestions:
Exercise. Nothing beats a good workout to let off steam. Michelle likes to run. "It's free, I can do it anywhere, and when I'm done I always feel better."
Basketball, aerobics, biking, swimming and walking are also popular. According to Jack, nothing beats karate. "I take all my frustration out on the punching bag. I punch it, kick it, and yell. It gets the anger out."
Music. Karlee's been playing piano for years. After a particularly rough day, she pounds the keyboard. "I lose myself in the music," she says.
A lot of kids said that listening to music was a fabulous release. While loud music tends to make parents tense, it seems to have opposite effect on their "offspring" (pun intended.)
Massage. A group of girls gave me an emphatic yes on this one. "We take turns," explained Janine, "rubbing each other's shoulders and necks. When your muscles are really tight you know you're stressed."
Another way to reduce stress is to examine what's causing it and attempt to eliminate the source. Here are a few suggestions for finding the root of the problem:
Over-scheduling. Is it possible you're doing too much? Make a list of all your activities, then rate each one in terms of importance.
Consider your motives. Are you working weekends because you really need the money, or to afford designer sneakers?
Are you taking an honors class because you enjoy the challenge, or because it'll look good on your college applications? Consider doing less and enjoying it more.
"Should" s. Do you find yourself saying yes when you want to say no, because you think you should? If pleasing others is your sole motive, ask yourself: What do I really want?
De-cluttering relationships. Do you have friends you don't particularly like? Do you hang around with them out of habit?
Just as you clean your drawers out after each growth spurt, and try on new clothes, try on some new friends. If the old ones don't fit, who needs them?
Finally, here are a few tips that work for me:
Breathe. When I'm tense, I forget to breathe. A few deep breaths help to relax.
Meditate. You don't have to climb the Himalayas to meditate. Simply close your eyes, breath deeply and concentrate on a simple, positive thought. The experts recommend 20 minutes a day, but even five minutes a week is helpful.
Talk. A trouble shared is a trouble halved. After griping to a friend I always feel better. When I hear her troubles I'm glad that at least I don't have that problem!
After my grandmother died I felt as if no one understood. Talking to friends just made me feel worse. A therapist who specialized in bereavement helped me express my sorrow and accept the grieving process. If a problem doesn't go away, consider seeing a professional.
Laugh. Nothing beats a funny movie, comedy tape or the latest joke.
Cry. Tears have a way of washing away tension. Holding them back, on the other hand, causes more stress. Let it all out.
Mini-Vacation. While I'd like to fly to Hawaii for two weeks on the beach, I make do with a bubble bath or a trip to the ice-cream parlor at the mall. When I feel like I'm too busy to take a break, that's usually exactly when I need one.
Teenagers' Life
In our life it is important that we have friends, with who we can have fun. School is very important for us, but many teenagers don't check this. Because they think there are other important things. Many of them have boy/girl friends for whom they live. Then there are the boys and girls who think they are cool and very funny when they sit in front of the computer every day, but really they miss the real life and the fun which their friends have.
Life is at its end for many teenager when they lose their boy/girl friend. Many teenagers have trouble with their parents, they think that the parents want to ruin their life. A lot of them test drugs, alcohol etc at 15 or 14 years and think they were cool, but they don't know that drug ruin their lives. Life is very nice when you think of yourself and do what you want and like it, and when you're not going to break only because other people say bad things about you.........
Many teenager smoke and drink alcohol, because they think their life is not good, they have problems at home and with their friends. Some teenager want to die, they take drugs and don't go to school. It gives teenager who don't smoke and drink alcohol and they feel good. When their not good at school they feel bad and try to smoke and drink. Some have bad problems , that they kill their teacher, some kill themselves because of their overweight or underweight, they don't like their bodies. The classmate try to finish the other. We think everybody can do what they think to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If we don't smoke and we have no problems at home and at school. We have a happy life
For a teenager-life is very important, their friends and what they do in their freetime. Teenagers must go often to party's and having fun. Sport is important thing too for example baseball, football or tennis. The hobbies from teenagers are different some go often swimming or riding and other teenagers go often to the cinema and in discos. For a teenager is important after school don't work all the time. The teenagers must choose their own way of life. A lot of teenagers go often in the World-Wide-Web. For many teenager is important too, to go in holiday. Here can found a new friends. A teenager must have their own room for live and to grown up. Some teenagers find school very terrible and don't want to go there.
A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the "why" for his existence, and will be able to bear almost any "how."
Why is life for a teenager worth living !?!
I think it's worth living, because you can have so much fun. Some teenagers goes to concerts or make holidays. In normal every life teenager meet friends, make or hear music. But many teenagers don't think so and they believe that they have many insoluable problems. I think there is always a way to a solution. The biggest problem is that most of them don't speak about their problems. If they speak about their problems we could help them. I think most of the problems come by school and home, because they have e.g. terrible grades or some schoolmates are mobbing them, or the parent are too harsh on them, no chance for any suggestion, no free movement. That makes life very difficult them. They worry about the future, but yet they want to have a lot of fun, forgotten that without good education and good character you, the future you’re worry about will be meaningless and you miss the great fun wish you think you’re missing while away from school.
Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future, make a change.
What things make life worth living?
The friends are very important but, carefully choose and create a family of friends whom you can share your hopes, dreams, sorrows, and happiness with! Is one of help to find a solution to problem. The music make the life very worth living. It helps to get over when you do homework or you're alone with your friend or you are feel sick for example. When you go to holiday you see very beautiful things about the life: the huge green mountains, the beautiful beaches from the lakes and any other things. It helps too when you believe to God, to your family and to yourself.
Responsibility does not only lie with the leaders of our countries or with those who have been appointed or elected to do a particular job. It lies with each of us individually. Peace, for example, starts within each one of us. When we have inner peace, we can be at peace with those around us.
What makes life good?!
Life is the best present that we can get! All of our life is worth living! Things like music, love and work gave the special kick. We must have family, free time for hobbys and 'good friends. When we don’t have sometimes problems or any anger we woudn't live wider. But in this time we can imaging the God sites of live. I don’t understand that people will make suicide kill. The basic thing is that everyone wants happiness, no one wants suffering. And happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in a hostile atmosphere, you feel happy. All people have the right of life! : Stars do not struggle to shine; rivers do not struggle to flow, and you will never struggle to excel in life, because you deserve the best. Hold on to your dream and it shall be well with you.
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