In a message shared on her Instagram page, Eriata addressed women dealing with betrayal in their marriages, urging them to focus on healing, self-improvement, and personal growth rather than seeking payback through similar actions.
According to her, many women who have given their all in relationships are often encouraged by others to cheat in retaliation when their partners are unfaithful. However, she believes such advice is misguided and ultimately harmful.
“Women are being betrayed despite giving their best in marriage, and sadly, broken people are busy advising them to cheat back. Cheating back will never give you closure.”
She explained that choosing to retaliate places a person in the same emotional space that caused them pain in the first place.
“The moment you do it, you return to the same painful feeling of betrayal your husband caused you. Not only that, but you also end up proving to yourself that you do not value yourself enough to heal properly.”
Eriata further noted that many people mistakenly believe another relationship or romantic encounter can fill the emotional void created by betrayal. In reality, she said, such relief is often temporary and prevents genuine healing from taking place.
“Instead, you begin expecting someone else to fill that emotional vacuum, but the truth is, they never really do. It is all temporary, and in the process, you deprive yourself of true healing.”
She warned that unresolved emotional wounds can lead individuals into unhealthy relationships, making it difficult to recognise warning signs in future partners.
“You may even continue attracting the same type of men because you never healed enough to recognize a red flag disguised as green.”
Encouraging women to redirect their energy toward self-development, Eriata stressed that the most powerful response to heartbreak is becoming a stronger, healthier version of oneself.
According to her, growth should extend beyond physical appearance to include mental, emotional, and spiritual development.
“Your biggest payback is becoming a version of yourself that even he cannot reach. Physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually upgrading yourself.”
She also advised women to strengthen their relationship with God and be intentional about future relationships, choosing partners who embody love, respect, understanding, and genuine commitment.
“Know God more deeply than you used to, and take your time to choose someone ordained by God; someone who will truly love, respect, understand, value, and adore you.”
While acknowledging that some relationships can be repaired, Eriata maintained that when a situation becomes irreparable, walking away is a healthier option than seeking revenge.
“If it cannot be fixed, let it go. Do not cheat back.”
Her comments have sparked conversations online about healing after betrayal, personal accountability, and healthier ways of coping with the emotional fallout of infidelity.