“Stephanie and I are no longer married. We
have separated. You can see she's not in the church today. It's due to
irreconcilable differences and you should please respect our wishes at this
time because there is no going back.”
With the above
statement, Rev. Chris Okotie on Sunday, 24th June 2012, at the church service,
announced to the bewilderment of his church members that his four year old
second marriage to beautiful Stephanie Henshaw has crashed. Rev Okotie's marriage
to his first wife of 16 years crashed in 1998.
The announcement
took many by surprise because after Okotie, who is the General Overseer and
founder of the Household of God Church, Oregun, Lagos married Stephanie, in
August 7, 2008 through a traditional marriage at the bride's Ikoyi, Lagos home
followed by the court wedding at the Ikoyi Registry on August 8, 2008, the
glamorous pastor explained in a press conference that the marriage was ordained
by God.
Okotie had said
that Stephanie was destined to marry him from birth. “She was not particularly
certain whether it was what God wanted for her. So I had a situation where I
had to get the Lord to persuade her that He is part of this agreement” Okotie
was quoted to have said.
But with the
announced break-up of the second marriage, many have queried if it was true
Okotie actually heard from God that Stephanie was meant for him or he was just
hallucinating.
Chris Okotie had
always been in the news since he shot to limelight in the early 80's as a funky
pop star, while in the University. His song, 'I NEED SOMEONE' was a monster
hit, and it ruled the airwaves and night clubs at that time.
Okotie, who started
his music career with Edo College School Band abandoned his musical career at
the height of his stardom to complete his study of law at the University of
Nigeria, Nsukka after which he bagged a Bachelors in Law in 1984. He claimed to
have received a divine call in 1985 which made him to attend the Bible School
in Tulsa, Oklahoma, U.S.A.
The former pop
star returned to Nigeria in 1986 and started his ministry, House Hold
Fellowship in 1987, and later became Household of God International Ministries
with its first service held in his living room in Ikeja.
Reverend Okotie
acquired and moved to the permanent location of his church in 1992 and has
reportedly bought over all the landed property in the environment.
In 1998, Okotie
got separated from his first wife, Tina who he had been dating when he was a
student. He was married to Tina for 16 years, and Tina eventually relocated to
America where she later remarried.
After his marriage
to Tina crashed, stories began to fly here and there that the funky pastor was
having affairs with several ladies in his congregation. This went on for a long
time until Okotie eventually married Stephanie Henshaw four years ago.
Interestingly,
Stephanie was a widow who had three children from two marriages. Rev. Okotie
was her third husband.
However, not much
was known about the state of affairs of the marriage as the couple was seen
severally at public outings, holding hands and displaying public show of
affection until Okotie made the declaration of the “irreconcilable differences”
in church last Sunday.
Meanwhile, tongues
have been wagging and public scrutiny had been beamed on the possible reason
Rev. Okotie's second marriage crumbled.
A very close
source who claims to know Rev. Okotie well alleged that Okotie's marital
problems stems from his presumed inability to father a child.
“It's very
difficult to push to the public, but the reasons Okotie's marriages are not
working is because of childlessness. It's a private thing, and he is battling
the problem. Tina was with him for about 17 years without a child to show for
the marriage. That was why Tina had to relocate to America, and remarried. I
even heard she has a child now,” our source disclosed.
But we pointed out
to our source that so far as Stephanie already had three children, she couldn't
have agreed that the marriage to Okotie breaks up. “A woman generally does not
feel secure if she doesn't have a child for her husband, and especially if the
man is seen or suspected of keeping other women. That is the issue with Okotie
and Stephanie. I don't want to say more than this. Please.” The source stated.
But another source
who is a member of the Household of God Church said the above insinuation is wrong.
“It is a rubbish talk. The person that said so should not let the wrath of God
be visited on him or her. Is the person God? It's only Rev. okotie and
Stephanie that know the reasons they got separated, and we are praying for
them. It is wrong to say Rev. Okotie can't father a child.” The source said.